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Expert Advice on First Dates

First dates are always difficult and nerve breaking, regardless of how much experience you have in the field. The fear of not knowing what is going to happen and how that other person is going to be will make you an easy prey as long as you don’t learn how to control your emotions. What is great is that there are so many experts willing to share advice on how to make first dates easier that you really have no excuses; do the additional reading, put the advice into practice and I can assure you that everything will turn out to be just fine. Here are some easy tips to guide you into the crazy world of dating.

  • Choose the right location- The location of the first date plays an important role, believe it or not. It will basically set the tone of the date and help the other person create a first impression on you, good or bad. Something neutral, a non-pressure atmosphere type of location is the best choice you can make. Try a new coffee shop or a local bar instead of a fancy restaurant or dinner and movie. You don’t know whether you are going to click or not and believe me, you don’t want to realize that you don’t before the fancy dinner is served. Then you would be stuck at the table and the bill will be huge.
  • Prepare for a good conversation. Engaging into a meaningful conversation is the most nerve wracking part of any first date, especially if you have social anxiety. You could prepare a few conversation topics from home, so you don’t get into a dark zone while at the date.
  • Learn from the past- If you have some experience in the field and have had some bad dates, learn from those. Don’t repeat the same mistakes again.
  • Present yourself nicely- Everybody will say that the soul is what matters the most but let’s admit it: it is the body that gives us the chemistry or not. If you present yourself nicely, then there is a bigger chance for some nice chemistry between the two of you.
  • If you want to be interesting, then you also need to be interested. Really listen to what the other person is saying and allow him or her talk about themselves. Of course, you would love to talk just about yourself but the role of the first date is to help a relationship form. It takes two to form a relationship, so please don’t forget to be interested.

I know that these tips seem quite simple and I also know that putting them into practice is going to be much more difficult than you think. They might not work from the very first date but trust me, they will eventually work. You just have to let the information sink in and figure out how to apply it to the situations that you will be experiencing. You’ll surely find the right person for you; it is just a matter of time!

Essential Skills to Improve Relationship Communication

We are socially built to communicate and it is not a secret that besides feelings, a relationship also needs communication to survive. Feelings and a good communication are key to building a strong, healthy, long lasting relationship. If you recently entered one and you’re very much in love but you’re worried about not being very skilled at communicating, we will gladly teach you a few tips and tricks. To begin with, it is important for you to have the will to learn and develop a nonviolent, non-judgmental type of communication. This is easily achievable as long as you pay attention to some details and make the difference between a few perception nuances. We will detail everything below, so check this article and follow the tips and tricks; it will surely help you improve your relationship communication skills.

  • Observation is better than evaluation and interpretation. Let’s take a common situation, when your partner is late for a date. A lot of people immediately jump to conclusions and interpret that their partner does not find them interesting or important. That is passive aggressive and this is a situation in which you simply have to observe that your partner is late; that’s more than enough. Say something like ‘’I realize you were late’’ and don’t evaluate the situation.
  • Feelings are not equal with thoughts. Always communicate your feelings. They develop from the emotions that you experience and if you don’t communicate them, then they will stick to the level of thought and will pile up in a negative way. Just make sure that if these feelings are not positive, you communicate them in a non-violent way.
  • Need vs strategy. You might not see this as an important detail but you need to learn to understand your needs. Once you do this, please communicate these to your partner and give him or her the chance to decide if your needs meet theirs. If he or she wants to meet your needs, then you are clearly on the same page and your relationship will most likely evolve in a fabulous way.
  • Request and demand. Last but not least, you should learn how to make a request without demanding it. Demanding is authoritarian and does allow your partner to express his or her feelings and thoughts.

The steps mentioned above might seem simple but you’ll see that it is not that easy to apply them. You probably understand them in theory but when it comes to practice, you often let yourself pray to momentary emotions and this is how mistakes appear. Mistakes are natural and we all make mistakes; after all, we’re all made of the same ingredients. However, it is important for you to acknowledge the fact that you are at risk of committing mistakes, so the more aware you become, the easier it gets to avoid unpleasant situations. Relationships are hard but they’re not impossible and they are so beautiful that they are worth the effort. I know that you will love being in a relationship!